Senior Match Online Dating After -50 Plus

I never thought I’d be here, but here I am. And let me tell you — dating at midlife just ain’t what it’s cracked up to be.
What’s that, you say? Senior  Internet dating is all the rage! There’s no stigma to it anymore. It makes perfect sense. With our fast life and careers, family responsibilities, keeping up with the news and working out — who has the time to meet Single people anymore? Forget singles bars. I-think-I-am-too-old-articleWhat woman in her 50s really enjoys meeting strange men at bars? Oh, wait. Most Internet “first dates” begin at bars. With strange men. Still, the draw is strong. Everybody seems to know somebody who’s met her significant other on Seniormatch online dating service.

SeniorMatch.com - the first and largest senior dating site for senior singles in the world, thousands of local and worldwide verified members.!
SeniorMatch.com – the first and largest senior dating site for senior singles in the world, thousands of local and worldwide verified members.!

“Mary met the love of her life,” said a friend. “She was smart enough to increase her radius of possibilities to 200 miles. And then she found Ted — only four hours away.” Only four hours? What nobody really seems to tell you is that for every seniormatch has online dating success story, but other online dating sites there are hundreds of failures: misleading (or outright fraudulent) profiles, years-old photos (at 50, that makes a real difference), awkward conversations, sexual miscues, and clearly incompatible goals.
What we can learn about relationships from politically divided couples.
My situation is fairly typical. After juggling 5 children and a demanding job, my first marriage ended in divorce my second marriage ends in divorce. I had given it some hard thinking, but my relationship with my wife, which began when we were both in young, really couldn’t make it for the long haul. So I opted out. About 15 years later, I encountered a friendly, good-looking neighbor, who had just recently become single. Senior-Women-Dating-350x250Marcia became my third wife and the love of my life. That made it all the more crushing when She died of a heart attack 3 years into our marriage. Thus began a long period of mourning, in which I helped usher my four daughters and son into adulthood, and devoted more attention to my career. But I was awfully lonely. It didn’t help that I went straight home from work every night and stayed in on weekends.

My friends would gently nudge me: “Why don’t you just go out more, even with friends?” “Have you checked out seniormatch?” And the always dependable: “Take a class. You’ll meet mature single people.” But I was stubborn. Oddly, I’m a very social person. Why was I cutting myself off from the world? My reasoning was this: If I don’t do anything, don’t “get out there,” nothing bad will happen. As in no disappointment, no heartbreak. There’s one problem with this line of thinking. Yes, if you don’t do anything, nothing bad happens. However, nothing good happens, either. Nothing happens.
So, five years after my wife’s death, I took the plunge. I signed up for senior match online dating and even went to a speed dating session at a local bar.
I approached online dating very seriously, enlisting help from close friends for my profile. It needed a dash of wit, a sprinkling of sass and an attractive photo. But not too much wit, and not too much sass. As for the photo: There’s no such thing as too attractive. After everything posted, I got a flood of responses from women. Not because I’m an exceptional catch, but because those who’ve been on the sites for a while tend to pounce on a new candidate. There were women who lived in other states and countries. (I can’t afford to see you. And Skype relationships are pretty two-dimensional.) women who mentioned sexual details in their profiles. (Yes, we get that sex is important, even in middle age. But this is just too much information!) women who were grammatically challenged.

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My first online date was at a nearby club. I rushed home from work, put on new clothes, fixed my hair and a dash of cologne, and left the house looking and feeling like a thousand bucks. I walked into the club where my date was sitting. Instantly, I could tell She wasn’t interested. (Not that I was, either. But since then, I always arrive earlier than the woman on a first date to check out, rather than be checked out.) The whole thing went downhill from there. My date spent an hour talking about what a long day she’d had, her allergies, and even checking out attractive men who walked by. Next!
73346087-1024x512The following night, I met a divorce lawyer for a drink. That job description should have been a red flag, but remember, I was trying to put myself “out there.” She walked in and said: “You’re Beautiful!” The last time someone called me a Beautiful was, well, never. Yet, I tried to make the best of it, until she made a pass at me in the elevator. Want to seduce a man? Trap him in a box and lunge at him. Works everytime. Thankfully, I escaped unscratched.

SeniorMatch.com - the first and largest senior dating site for senior singles in the world, thousands of local and worldwide verified members.!
SeniorMatch.com – the first and largest senior dating site for senior singles in the world, thousands of local and worldwide verified members.!
After a few more encounters in which women talked nervously and endlessly about themselves, I met a woman who seemed intelligent, attractive and interested in me. We dated for a couple of months. It was good for the ego at first but turned out not to be a lasting relationship. Note to self: Just because a woman doesn’t talk about herself all the time doesn’t mean She’s right for you.
1414901861In addition to online dating, I’ve tried the novel approach of meeting women in person — at a speed dating event. But it’s just different for the boomer set. We’re not teens no more. We don’t really do the “hang out, hook up” thing very well. Having a five-minute conversation isn’t much of a barometer for a relationship.
Here are my “Speed Dating Dos and Don’t, For Women of a Certain Age”
— DO dress presentably. Clean it up. No low cut shirts. And go easy on the hair product.
— DO know how to talk to a man. Bad line: “If your name weren’t Tammy, what name would you want?” Good line: “You’re a widow but out dating again? That’s good for us women.”
— DON’T leave a man sitting alone because you’re too shy to come over during the break for the buffet. For God’s sake, it’s speed dating. What did you sign up for?

— DON’T talk about marriage on a five-minute speed date.
— DO come up with a reason for why you’re in your 50s (or 60s) and have never met the right woman. It can be finessed.
— DON’T accidentally take your date’s drink to the next table (and next date) with you. Pay attention to what you’re doing.
— DO know your selling points. If it’s not your career — and it can’t always be — come up with something you’re good at.
— DO act interested in what she’s saying. Unless you just don’t
care.
Don’t do this… A big obstacle to finding love after 50 happens when you’re NOT putting yourself in places where you can be seen and found by available women on a DAILY BASIS!
Women can’t find you when you’re hiding every night at home.

Do…

Start going out at night and on the weekends.

Go to restaurants with friends. women are always there.

Take classes like yoga. What woman doesn’t love improving her body and now they can do it year round at indoor and outdoor.

Go to places like the library.

Women are there checking out books and movies every day.

The thing is single women are everywhere. All you have to do is make sure you’re in places where the two of you can meet.

But I am not giving up. I’ve told friends to keep on the lookout for suitable partners for me. I also have a couple of first dates next week with women I’ve met on seniormatch online dating. And yes — expect me to get there first.

SeniorMatch.com - the first and largest senior dating site for senior singles in the world, thousands of local and worldwide verified members.!
SeniorMatch.com – the first and largest senior dating site for senior singles in the world, thousands of local and worldwide verified members.!

SeniorMatch.com - the first and largest senior dating site for senior singles in the world, thousands of local and worldwide verified members.!
SeniorMatch.com – the first and largest senior dating site for senior singles in the world, thousands of local and worldwide verified members.!

SeniorMatch.com - the first and largest senior dating site for senior singles in the world, thousands of local and worldwide verified members.!
SeniorMatch.com – the first and largest senior dating site for senior singles in the world, thousands of local and worldwide verified members.!

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